Archive | July, 2012

What To Do On A Slow Day In The Office

27 Jul










I don’t know about you guys, but this past month has been REALLY slow for me. I went from being so busy that I could barely breathe to wishing I had a million things to do and couldn’t breathe again. My husband always tells me that I am never happy – that when I am slammed at work I complain and when I am slow I complain – and maybe that’s true. While I hate having to come into work on the weekends while my husband soaks up the sun with our friends, I would rather do that than have absolutely nothing to do. How about you guys?

So, what have I been doing at work this past month? I have been trying to read through certain code sections to at least know what they discuss (yes, I know, fun stuff). But now I am at the point where reading another code section is going to maybe, possibly, make me scream at the top of my lungs.

Summer is one of those times where people just seem to be slower at the office. Maybe this is because the weather is nice and people are enjoying their time outside rather than generating business, or maybe its just a coincidence. Whatever it is, there is no denying that being slow at work is miserable.

If you are in my situation and your work has dwindled during the summer months, what are some things you can do to stay busy and keep progressing as a professional? Obviously Facebooking, online shopping, or chatting with friends on G- chat is not the best way to spend your time (although I know a LOT of people do it anyways). Here are some POSITIVE things you could be doing with that extra time you have on your hands.


If you are in a particular field where changes in the laws, regulations, etc., affect you, then spending time on those slow days making sure that you haven’t missed any of those changes is probably a good idea. If there are such changes create a Word document making note of those changes and make sure that you thoroughly understand them. What I mean is don’t just read that the government is dropping funding for the program you are working for – find out how this is going to affect you, where the additional funding will come from, and why they are dropping the funding. In my line of work (legal) it is always important to read up on the changes in the laws and make sure that an opinion that was issued the previous day doesn’t somehow change something that you are working on today.


If you are anything like me then your inbox contains thousands and thousands of emails that you have not yet taken the time to organize into folders. I don’t do this because it is VERY time-consuming to go through all of your emails and organize them, and because I like being able to search through my inbox for something that I need. But, even I have to admit that it is nice to have your emails organized into appropriate folders, so if you have the time to do it – then do it.


The slow times in the office provide a great time for you to help develop your professional skills. Try reading a professional development book. Here are some of my favs:

If you aren’t in the mood for reading an entire book then read professional development articles by typing “Professional Development” into Google and reading the various things that come up.


If you don’t have a how-to document that would tell someone how to do your job if you died tomorrow, i.e. where everything is, who to call, what to do in certain circumstances, then making one is a great idea. Not only will this help someone if you decide to leave your job in the future, but it can be used as your go-to guide if you ever draw a blank on what to do next.


If you have the time to connect with a client on a particular day then call a client and asks them to lunch. Not only will this phone call give you a chance to chat with your client, but the lunch may lead to work (which, if you are reading this, you are in desperate need of).


Just because you aren’t busy doesn’t mean that the people around you aren’t. So, if you are in the mood to get busy and keep your mind occupied, ask someone around you if you can help them out. Being a good neighbor is always important, and maybe they will offer to help you one day.

Have you guys been slow this summer? If so, what do you do to occupy your time?

How To Create A Resume That Gets Noticed

19 Jul

I am always looking for good resume advice, but I find that a lot of websites say the same old thing – customize your resume, proof read it, etc. The last time I posted about resumes was here when I talked about Lindsey Pollak’s new book From College to Career. That post laid out the basics of creating the perfect resume – keep it to one page, proof read it, keep it traditional, etc. While all of that is important, the piece about using the right buzzwords is probably the one thing that will make your resume stand out from someone else’s resume.

So, how do we go about making sure that we say the right thing and get the hiring manager’s attention? I was recently forwarded some great advice by my friend Miss K over at River City Fashion. I really enjoy her blog and would suggest checking it out and writing her if you ever have fashion advice. She spends a lot of her time talking about what is acceptable to wear in a professional environment.

Ok, that’s it for my shout out to Miss K.

So, back to the advice – what to do to ensure that you have the right buzzwords. According to New York Times Bestselling author Martin Yate, the answer lies in Target Job Deconstruction or TJD. What on earth is TJD?

According to Yates, TJD is a process in which the job seeker (you) searches out job descriptions for the very job you are trying to obtain. If you follow the following steps, Yates essentially promises that your resume will be viewed by the right people. So, here is what you should do to optimize your TJD, according to Yates:

First, collect 6 job postings for the job you are best qualified to perform and save them or print them out. Yates suggests using job descriptions for the area you are looking to work in, i.e. Atlanta for me. I think this is important so that you know what people are looking for in your area from someone in your field.

Second, open a new Word document and copy and paste (or type) out the various job descriptions that you found. According to Yates this will allow you to see what an employer hiring someone in your field is looking for and what words they use to describe that person. After you have these job descriptions typed out you are to come up with the appropriate job title, which is to appear on your resume after your name, i.e. Mrs. K, Attorney in my case. I know this may be foreign to you (and I have to admit I have never done this before), but according to Yates this will make your resume more searchable on databases and by hiring managers.

Third, look through all of the job postings and find the skills/responsibilities/experience/deliverables that each job posting has in common and type that on your Word document. Then go through all of the job posts and list the skills, etc. that any of them have in common with another one. What’s the purpose? This will allow you to see what kinds of skills the employers hiring in your field are looking for and you will be able to use them in your resume.

Fourth, think of examples that you can write down that correlate to the skills that the employers are looking for. For example, if the employers hiring an attorney are looking for someone with trial experience, capitalize on the trial you recently won and the work you put into it.

Fifth, look at the job requirements you have identified and think of the best person you have ever seen perform those skills. Once you figure out who that person is, try to pinpoint what exactly made you think that that particular person was so great at that skill. Then think of the worst person you know that has performed that skill and identify why you think that person was so bad. What’s the point? Yost says that this will allow you to see the behavior profile of the person that the employer wants to hire.

Lastly, put all of this together.

Now, Yost doesn’t really explain how to do this – but here is some of my advice.

  • Use the job descriptions you found earlier and make sure that you can match a skill and an experience with each description. For example, if the job requires you to attend court hearings, discuss (in the experience section of your resume) how you have appeared in court and won hearings on your own.
  • Think about that person that was the best at a particular skill and try to bring their qualities into your resume. For example, if you are trying to get hired as an attorney and the best trial lawyer you know is X, and X is so great because she has a great presence in the courtroom and is the hardest worker you know, then try to use examples of work experience that make you look like X in the eyes of the employer. You could say something like: Prepared diligently for my first trial on a breach of contract claim and received the highest  judgment in the State of Georgia for my client.
  • NOTE: While you can use these job responsibilities and required skills as a road map for your own resume, remember that you shouldn’t EVER by lying about your experience.

What do you guys think? Did you find Yate’s advice helpful?


Get Confidence Today!

18 Jul

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We all know that confidence is the key to success in any endeavor in life. What many of us don’t know is how to become the confident person we know that we can be. We see others who ooze confidence and wonder how to become more like them. I have talked about increasing your confidence here. However, that post focused more on gaining confidence over time – how to keep increasing your confidence. Sometimes I wake up feeling pretty confident about myself and my abilities, but then there are those days where I wake up and think every negative thought possible. Today was one of those days where I was just down in the dumps and feeling sorry for myself. I didn’t like the way my hair looked, I was tired, and the last place I wanted to go was work.

So, if you are like me and wake up on the wrong side of the bed, what can you do to regain your confidence for that day?


We all know that while working out may suck in the moment, there is nothing that makes you feel as good about yourself as a good, hard workout. Sweat out that bad attitude and get those endorphins pumping that are known to make you happy.


While you may be the one in need of a compliment, there is something about saying something nice to others that just makes you feel better about yourself. Tell a co-worker that they look pretty today. Tell your significant other that you love them more than life itself. Tell your mom how you look up to her and strive to be like her. Tell someone something that you know will make them happy. To know that maybe you brightened someone’s day is a great feeling and will surely make you feel more confident.


Offer to help someone with a task at work, offer to help your significant other with dinner, ask a friend out to lunch and offer to pay, give the homeless lady some money, or volunteer for your church or favorite organization at lunch. These are just some ideas of things you can do for others. Just as a compliment can go a long way, so can a good deed. Whenever I do something good for someone else I always feel better about myself and more alive.


Too often we spend our time focusing on others and neglecting ourselves. While it is nice to help others and compliment others, remember that you need some lovin too. Try writing down a compliment to yourself on a sticky note and attaching it to your computer at work. It can say anything – you are a rock star, people admire you, you are a hard worker. If you are having trouble thinking of something just think back to the last compliment someone gave you and write it on the note. Being able to see one of your good qualities plastered on your computer screen will make you feel better throughout the day.


When I am having a crappy day I love to get out of the office and spend some time with my girlfriends. There is no better cure for the blues than a good girl talking session. If you find that your mood hasn’t perked up by lunch ask your work friends to lunch.


Sometimes we put off those big projects that we are dreading working on because we know it will be never-ending. But if you find yourself feeling down and not having much else to do at work, dive into that project. Not only will this consume your mind and make you forget about your bad day, but it will make you feel productive which in turn will give you the confidence boost that you need.


If the day is done and you are still feeling down ask a friend or your lover out for a drink. This will give you some time to unwind, get a head change, and forget about the day.


The key to being productive and being in a good mood is sleep. I am a proponent of at least 8 hours of sleep a night. My husband thinks I am crazy, but I know what works for me and its at least 8 hours of sleep a night. If I get less than 8 hours of  sleep I am prone to be cranky and on edge (which is not fun for those around me). So my advice is to get plenty of sleep so you can wake up on the right side of the bed and with a smile.

What do you do when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed?

Interview Preparation: Know Yourself

17 Jul












Interview or visit to the dentist? Interview or an hour of traffic on your way home from work? Interview or working on a Saturday? For many of us it would be hard to choose which scenario we would prefer. Why is this? Because we all perceive an interview to be just as uncomfortable, just as painful as a visit to the dentist or sitting in traffic for over an hour or working on a Saturday. Why are we so uncomfortable with the interview process when it is an inevitable step in landing that coveted job that we want so badly? I think it is because people don’t know how to properly prepare for an interview. Sure, we all may get that butterfly feeling in our stomachs right before the interview and that is normal (that means that you care), but we shouldn’t dread going to an interview.

So, outside of knowing about the company (inside and out), knowing whom you are going to be interviewing with, and the inevitable questions you will be asked, i.e. why do you want to work here, how can you better prepare yourself for an interview to make the interview process more comfortable?


I think an important part of being comfortable in an interview is knowing who you are, i.e. knowing what your flaws and weaknesses are as well as your good qualities. I am currently reading the book How To Wow by Frances Cole Jones, which is a good read for those of you looking to make a good impression at work and with colleagues. In Chapter 4, Jones discusses the interview process and suggests making a list of 3 words that describe yourself. I know, I know, when an interviewer asks these questions we never know how to answer them correctly – should we be honest or should we make ourselves sound better than we really are? But for this exercise just be honest. Write down 3 words that you think  accurately describes you.

My three words would be as follows: Reserved, Hard-Working, Punctual

NOTE: While it should have been easy for me to come up with three words it was rather hard. I find it very difficult to describe myself to others, but maybe this exercise will be easier for you.

The next step, according to Jones, is to ask those around you whether those descriptions of yourself are accurate. Jones says that doing this will allow you to properly see how others see you, which can be completely different from how you see yourself.

If I were to ask those around me whether I was reserved, some people would agree while others, those that I know very well, would laugh in my face. The reason being that when I don’t know someone well I am reserved and shy, and have been told that sometimes I look unhappy or mean. But for those who know me well, they know that in new situations I am shy and that I am not being mean. The ones who know me well see me as the talkative woman who isn’t afraid to voice her opinion, but for those who just meet me they see something completely different.

So, how does doing this exercise help? For me it is helpful to know that people perceive me as reserved. Why? Because employers want people who are exactly the opposite – talkative, personable, outgoing. So, knowing that I come off as reserved and kind of bitchy helps me know that when interview time comes I need to smile a little more and talk a LOT more. Knowing how others perceive me makes it easier for me to work on my problems before stepping foot inside the interview room.

Is being something that you are not easy? No, but you can work on it. While I would never want to work in a work environment where the people didn’t like me for who I was, I understand that an employer wants an employee that can go out there and talk to potential clients. So, to feel more comfortable in the interview and to have a chance at landing the job it is important to portray that image that the employer wants to see even if it isn’t you all the time. There is nothing wrong with working on your flaws, and for me that means trying to be a little more outgoing.

If you find yourself nervous about the interview process try this exercise. Write down 3 words you would use to describe yourself in a work environment, ask those around you whether those are accurate perceptions, and if some of those perceptions are off try to work on being more like the word you described yourself as.

Dealing With Imposter Syndrome

13 Jul

Have you ever felt that you weren’t good enough, weren’t smart enough, to be doing whatever it is you are doing – whether it be a job, schooling, parenting, etc.? Have you ever worried, constantly, that someday somebody would figure you out, would find you that you are a phony and undeserving of all that you have achieved? Sure, you may be smart or hard-working, but maybe you feel that you are lacking in something that you believe others think you have, and you are worried that if they discover that you don’t have this they will think of you as a phony. If you have ever felt this then you have been a victim of what is known as Imposter Syndrome.

I know this isn’t a new topic. In fact, I read stories about Imposter Syndrome all the time here, here, and here for example. And while I have read so many articles about it I feel that this is a really important topic for career women to discuss. Not only does this so-called Imposter Syndrome make women feel unworthy of their success, but in my opinion, it holds some women back from the success they could be achieving if they didn’t feel this way.


Think about Imposter Syndrome as that bully at school or the mean older sibling that tells you that you are a loser, fat, ugly, and stupid. No matter what you do and how much you achieve that bully is always there pulling you down, telling you that you are worthless. And in return, that bully, no matter how hard you try, eventually makes you think those things about yourself. You end up feeling that all of your success has come about as a matter of luck and not because of your hard work or knowledge. You are unable to actually stand up and say, Yes, I deserve this success.

What Are Some Symptoms Of Those Who Experience Imposter Syndrome?

1.     Downplaying your accomplishments (saying that they are successful because of other people or because of pure luck, not because of you);

2.     Being afraid to speak up and take credit for something;

3.     Thinking that your success is not well-deserved;

4.     Fearing that people will discover that you are not as smart or deserving as they perceive you to be;

5.     Telling yourself, constantly, that you don’t deserve the success you have achieved;

6.     Always comparing yourself to others and wishing you were more like them and less like yourself;

7.     Feeling as if everyone else other than yourself has all the answers and knows more than you do;

8.     Being afraid to step out of your comfort zone or take on a great opportunity;

9.     A feeling that you have fooled others into believing that you are smart and knowledgable; or

10.    Setting low expectations for yourself to avoid failure.


While I am no expert on this topic, I do think there are various ways to battle your inner demons and grab ahold of your unbearable anxieties. Here are some of my tips:

1.     Recognize That Others Really Aren’t Thinking About You

We all have a tendency to assume that others are really thinking of us, focusing on us, when the truth is that they aren’t at all. Have you ever had someone tell you that they thought you were making fun of them or ignoring them when the fact of the matter is that you weren’t even really thinking about them? While it is hard to assume that others are thinking about you, because in some ways we want others to be thinking about us, just take a look and think about how closely you really think about others. Do you spend your entire day focused on how other people have been handed success or are too stupid to be working in a particular job? Probably not, and if you do you may need some more excitement in your life.

2.     Understand That Your Fear Is Just Your Way Of Protecting Yourself From Failure

We all want to protect ourselves from anything that could come along and make us feel bad about ourselves, and the Imposter Syndrome is one way to prepare yourself for any failure that may come your way. There are people out there (the glass half empty people) that always assume the worst, and in the end they say that they are better prepared for the worst when things don’t go their way. While this may help some cope with the failures that come knocking, relentlessly, at their door, do you really want to be a glass-half-empty type of person? Do you want to spend all of your energy preparing yourself for the worst when you could be living in and celebrating the best of times?

Sometimes I am a negative person and focus on what will go wrong, but when you achieve something you shouldn’t be focusing on what others may perceive of you or what they may (or may not) find out. While I know this is the very battle that those with Imposter Syndrome are working to overcome, try to recognize that these feelings – the feeling that you are not good enough – is your body’s way of preparing you for the worst.

3.    Choose To Focus Your Energy Elsewhere

I know this may be hard, but try to push those inner demons aside when they try to tell you that you aren’t good enough and focus your attention on other things – like getting that project completed, making your client happy, writing your book, or whatever it is you are doing. If you try to tell the demon within you that you won’t give it any of your time, then eventually it will go away.

4.     Recognize That Your Aren’t Perfect

Usually people who suffer from Imposter Syndrome have unrealistic expectations of the successes they should have and are often referred to as perfectionists. Do you know someone like this or are you like this? If so you probably have times of extreme self-doubt and feel inadequate, am I right? What I am here to tell you that this is ok. It is ok to feel self-doubt and to have times where you are unsure, and if you do that doesn’t mean that you are not smart enough or hard-working enough to have achieved everything that you have. Recognizing that you are not perfect should be your first step to overcoming Imposter Syndrome.

5.     Share Your Feelings With Other Females

Chances are if you are a working woman who has achieved some success that at some point in time or another you have doubted yourself and wondered whether you really deserved it. While it may feel like something you have to deal with on your own, it isn’t. The truth is that there are tons of women out there who feel this way. Just try asking some of your successful female friends whether they have ever felt this way and discuss your feelings with them. They may give you some perspective on how to handle your anxieties and overcome your fears. I mean, what are friends for, right?

6.    Wake Up Every Morning Saying Something Great About Yourself

I know this sounds sort of silly, but the more you tell yourself that you are great, talented, smart, nice, a good friend, etc, the more you will believe it. Try leaving yourself a note the night before to wake up to the in the morning. Maybe create a jar with tons of good things to think about yourself and pull one out every morning and say it out loud and believe it. Cut out magazine quotes, book quotes, or other inspirational quotes and frame them in your office, your bathroom, or wherever you feel your most vulnerable. Do whatever it takes to encourage yourself to think highly of yourself and your achievements.




Getting Along With A Mean Co-Worker

11 Jul

Have you ever had the pleasurable experience of working with someone who is mean, rude, or just angry at the world? While I have not (thankfully) had to personally deal with this, I know a lot of people out there get stuck in situations where they are required to work closely with someone who is just plain mean. Sure, we all have bad days or get into cranky moods, but being mean every single day is a talent that takes a major effort.

I recently started reading Jennifer Weiner’s first book Good In Bed. I am not very far along into it, but from the beginning the main character Cannie discusses her experiences in working with a mean, cranky and old Gabby. According to Cannie, Gabby is just awful to work with and sometimes even makes her cry.

Having to deal with the pressure of deadlines, pleasing bosses, and making sure that we get things right causes enough stress. Adding a mean or unruly co-worker on top of that can simply drive you crazy. Fortunately, there are ways to deal with a co-worker from hell – here are some tips.

Tip No. 1: Expect The Co-Worker From Hell To Cause You Hell

They say that when you prepare yourself for the worst you are more prepared when the worst actually happens. While always looking at things negatively is not a good thing to do (usually), in the case of a mean co-worker I think it is ok to just assume and expect that she/he will be mean/rude/crass/annoying. If you expect this you are less likely to take it personally or get upset by it.

Tip No. 2: Don’t Retaliate

Don’t fight fire with fire. If your co-worker says something rude or yells or does anything else that gets under your skin, don’t respond. Usually when people behave this way it is because they want some sort of reaction. When I am in a really bad mood and pick a fight with my husband I want him to lash out and say something mean so I have a reason to raise my voice and release my angry energy. While sometimes he does lash out (maybe because he is cranky too or because he is sick of my sh**) a lot of times he just rolls his eyes and laughs (which makes me mad too). The point is that if you give them what they are looking for they will continue to be rude and mean to you. If you just say “ok” and roll your eyes they will get annoyed and walk away and go pick on someone else.

Tip No. 3: Be Nice

Ok, yes, I know the last thing you want is to be nice to the grouchy co-worker, but maybe they are mean and grumpy because they are really looking for help or for a friend. Sometimes people push others away because they are scared of being rejected, so they think that if they push others away it was on their terms. If you offer them help or ask them out to lunch despite their nasty attitude they may relent and decide to give you a break. Who knows, maybe you will become the best of friends (probably not).

Just remember that people have different things going on in their lives and there may be more to their story. If you care to fix the situation (or try to fix it) maybe you should try to get to know them.

Tip No. 4: Tell HR or Your Boss

If your nasty co-worker makes it nearly impossible for you to get your work done or go through the day without crying then maybe it is time for some third-party intervention. If you have an HR person in your office then go to them – that’s what they are there for (if not, tell your boss). You can tell  HR  how the co-worker treats you and how it is affecting your work. HR should talk to the individual and make a note in your file so that if the behavior continues it is on record (and maybe they can terminate them).

WARNING: I would really think about reporting the mean person before you actually go through with it. I have worked closely with HR personnel before and know that reporting such things causes conflicts in the office. While HR is there to deal with office problems that interfere with your work, remember that rumors circulate and people may find out what happened. You have to decide whether such a thing would be beneficial to your work issues or whether it would cause more problems. Also consider how close HR is with the individual causing you stress – the closer they are, maybe the less likely they are to actually say something to your co-worker.

Another option is to go to HR, tell them your issue, and suggest a mediation between you and your co-worker.  This may help to air out the dirty laundry and make things right between the two of you. Again, think about this before you do it. Do you think talking with a mediator will help your issue with your co-worker? Will this make you feel better about going to work with this person? How do you think the person will respond to the mediation attempt (some people get really defensive when confronted)?

Tip No. 5; If All Else Fails, MOVE ON

If you have tried everything in your power to make things right between you and your nasty co-worker and nothing has worked then I think it is time to move on. There is only so much you can do to try to change other people and if you continue to try to make things better you may cause yourself more stress than necessary.

If working with this person is completely impossible and nothing else has worked think about getting another job. Yes, I know this is extreme, but being unhappy at work isn’t work the money (at least I don’t think so). Also, if this person makes your work environment completely unlivable think about contacting the EEOC and making a Hostile Work Environment claim.

Have you ever had to deal with a nasty co-worker? What did you do?

Celebrating Birthdays In The Office

2 Jul

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When we were younger birthday was a thing that was always celebrated. Your friends brought you gifts and balloons to school, your parents throw you a big party, and everyone recognized that you were one year older. But when we grow up and get jobs celebrating birthdays is not as simple – mostly because we are usually at work when our birthdays occur. On top of that, some people just don’t like to acknowledge that they are a another year old, so it can become a sensitive topic.

Today is my birthday so I thought I would discuss the topic of what is appropriate to do for your fellow co-workers and what you should be mindful of or try to avoid.

For starters, I think it is important to always acknowledge your colleague’s birthday, especially if you work closely with that person. Not only will your acknowledgement perk up their spirits, but it will make them feel closer to you. In my opinion, having a co-worker come up and say happy birthday makes me feel like my co-worker cares. Sure, that may sound juvenile or like I need attention, but that’s not the case at all. It’s simply about someone whom you see every day taking the time out of their day to put a smile on your face. That, to me, is important.

What do you do if you forget to say Happy Birthday? Right after I started working my assistant, who helps me and three other attorneys, had a birthday. I wasn’t aware of her birthday until I saw all of the other assistant’s bringing her a gift. I remember being super busy that day and not being able to leave the office to get her a gift. I felt awful about it and talked to some of my good friends who confirmed that I should have gotten her a gift — oops. Lesson learned. So, how did I make up for it? I got her an extra nice give for admin-day, but looking back I think I should have apologized for not knowing it was her birthday. If you, like me, forget someone’s birthday I think it is important to acknowledge that you made a mistake. It is better to say Happy Birthday late than to not say it at all – and trust me, I wish I would have followed my own advice.

What is an appropriate gift to get a co-worker? I think this depends on how close you are to them. If you know your co-worker really well then it’s ok to get them something a little more personal. If you are not that close to them a card or simply a warm “Happy Birthday” will do. Remember, it isn’t about the gift itself, just the thought. So some good, cheap, gift ideas include: flowers, birthday cards, a book, or simply taking them to lunch.

What is the rule on lunch? Generally, in my opinion, if I offer to take someone to lunch on their birthday I won’t let them pay. Now, for some of us, this may be too expensive, so what is appropriate? Ask some of your other co-workers to go with you and split the person’s bill between the co-workers. The birthday girl/boy may not let you pay for them, but I think it is important to at least offer. Now, if they want to go to some 5 star restaurant, maybe paying for their meal isn’t an option, and I think that’s ok. No one in their right mind would expect a co-worker to pay for their $30 steak lunch.

Is having a cake appropriate? I think this depends on your company culture. In my company we have a monthly birthday celebration where cake is served. I think this is a great idea because it doesn’t favor one co-worker over another. Remember, people’ s feelings may get hurt if you have a birthday cake for one person and not another.

What do you think about my advice? What do you usually do for a co-worker’s birthday?